From Ihuoma Okoroafor older sister 15/01/2009

Nwugo Nwannem, this one is a big one, a real big one...in your own words, kesi na etuoo, how could this be. As we sat through Thursday, 8 January, I did not know that it was the last day on earth with you. As I fed you and we talked and I encouraged you to will it to be, I had no clue that those were the last moments on this earth with you. If I had known, I would have just held your hands and told you how much I love you.,how dear you are and will always be to me, I would have told you that you were one in a million, how much you meant to us all. At about midnight of the previous day, Wednesday, I had read Isaiah 57:1-2, but pushed it away. For me at that time it was not the word in season, because you walked into that hospital and you told me you would walk out. Nwugo you were my younger sister. To others it was difficult to believe because I was smaller in size, but to me, you were like an older sister, wiser, smarter, deeper and you had a better undersatnding of things than I did. Chioma, Kechi, Lewechi, Oby, Nwayi and Cee mean different things to me but in you I find bits and pieces of them. You were a force, an icon. No wonder! When you came into our prayer meetings, parties, or as Olu says, our "just want to be together get togethers", the atmosphere always changed. You carried with you a presence and an aura that brought calm into any situation, when the rest of us would have brought down a house due to our feelings at the time. Nwugo, you counseled me right, you encouraged me in my career and life in general and when I made a breakthrough, you joined the team of sisters and a brother who fitted perfectly well to celebrate me. You proof read all my letters, always trying to make me look good, your intelligence amazed me. Your quick move into the future reminds me of when Papa passed on. We realized then that he was a father to many. Nwugo, you had numerous children, sisters, brothers and friends. I do not yet know how our tomorrow will be but I believe that by Gods grace it shall be well. To Uche, Olu and Emeka, you were the Aunt that they didn't quite know how to describe her love, affection and priceless gift to them, their Aunty Nwugo with all her technology gadgets. Uche and Olu are beginning to read like you. Their dad, your Dr O is speechless and can't begin to quantify the loss to the family and your generation. NwugoNwannem, life will never, never be same without you. My only comfort is that by God's grace we will meet again. The void your demise has created will be a huge one to attempt to fill. You will always be in our thoughts. I thank the Almighty God, the all knowing and the one that was not taken unawares like we all were for making us who we are and giving us the opportunity to share, though short, the wonderful life and times that we had as siblings. Nwiggy, my sister and friend sleep well, away from the evil of this world till we meet again, where our dancing will not be interrupted. We love you dearly.